I do to an arranged marriage,what should you know before you say ?

What should you know before you say ‘I do’ to an arranged marriage?

Let us make you aware of some interesting facts so that you will know what you need to know before arrenged marrige or I want to do arrenged marriage then.

While marriage has been an object of obsession in many cultures, its largest fan base exists in India.

Parents start planning the marriage of their children from the moment they’re born – sometimes even before that. That, however, does not mean that you can pick and choose who you want to marry.

 There are strict guidelines regarding marriage in India.

As much as the country has progressed, love marriages are still frowned upon, let alone the ones that are inter-caste or inter-religion. 

Arranged marriages are still the norm in India and are considered pretty successful, given that lesser number of arranged marriages end up in divorces.

 Let’s examine this, along with the other arguments that support arranged marriage.

Lower divorce rates for a reason!

If it’s an arranged marriage, the knot isn’t just tied between two people – it’s tied between two families. Due to the involvement of families in a relationship, one that should only concern two people, it becomes the responsibility of the married couple to ensure that the marriage works. 

So, even if the couple is unhappy, they keep going, because taking a divorce would mean breaking the hearts of the parents who had set up the marriage in the first place.

 This especially works against women, who sometimes, become victims of domestic violence but still have to stay in the marriage.

Source: LawRato.com

Strangeness isn’t always a good thing

One argument that people always pose to support arranged marriage is that since the two people involved are complete strangers (which is not necessarily the truth), there is a lot to explore in the relationship. Have you ever had the pleasure of sitting next to a really talkative, annoying stranger in a bus? Now, imagine having to spend the rest of your life with that person! Not a great picture, is it? Strangeness is enjoyable only if you like the person in the first place. Even then, it is fleeting, and before you know it, it is replaced by familiarity.

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It is based on the assumption that ‘parents know best.’

Most of the Indian youth is living a double life. Social taboos have made it so. The activities young ones indulge in are mostly kept hidden from the parents. Thus, the idea that parents know you well enough to choose a life partner for you is a gamble. 

You may hit the jackpot sometimes, but more often than not, you’ll get stuck with someone who doesn’t see you for who you are.

Source: MEME

Sexual chemistry – the neglected variable

One thing that isn’t talked about enough is sexual chemistry between the couples. Rest assured, it isn’t something that is on your parents’ mind when they’re looking for your life partner.

 However, it is a crucial variable, one that has a massive influence on the happiness of the marriage.

 Many relationships fail simply for this reason, despite everything else being right.

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More than anything, who you want to spend the rest of your life with should be your own decision.

 It is one thing to seek approval of your family for the person you want to tie the knot with, and a whole another to leave that decision entirely in their hands.

 People don’t let their families make such small decisions for themselves, yet, no one challenges the idea of leaving the biggest decision of your life to your family. Food for thought.

Now you must have understood what I want to understand, if you have understood then you will think once.